In the last couple of years, I’ve learned that the journeys you take in life are always preparing for the next thing, even if you don’t know what the next thing is. Every chapter of my life I’ve gone through lessons and struggles that made no sense at the time. You know what I mean…the breakups, the career flops, the friendship losses…none of it ever makes sense. You grieve, you throw things in anger, you lose yourself in the emotional turmoil. It’s a pretty crazy chapter and you’re wishing you were already onto the next one.
Then, fast forward to the next one, you’re going through a similar situation and it doesn’t feel like such a roller coaster of a ride. When you start thinking about it, you realize that the last chapter in your life actually prepared you for everything that is pretty much a normality in your current one. And if you think about it, it makes the journey a little easier to take and easier to brush things off.
The thing is, when you’re in the grit of your current chapter and situations, the last thing on your mind is “This will help me for the next one”. But maybe that’s what we need to start telling ourselves. I don’t know that it would change the circumstances, but it might change our outlook on it. You see the one thing that has stuck with me throughout all these ups and downs of life is changing my perspective does make a difference.
We’re still going to feel whatever we’re feeling…the grief, the sadness, the anger, the joy….all of it. But seeing things from a different light helps lighten the load just a little bit.
I don’t know why we go through the things we go through…whether it’s for growth, for lessons, or just because. But they’re going to happen, all the same, nothing we can control about it. The one thing I can control is my mindset over it. I’ll cry my tears, I’ll let out my anger and frustration, but once that’s done I’ll sit with myself and expand my view on where I currently am. Just trying to see the whole picture eases my breathing and takes the weight to lighten.
So from one struggling individual to another, try changing your view…see if it eases some of the emotions and pain you’ve been feeling. It won’t take it away completely, but it might make the journey a little bit easier to walk through.
And if you find any other tips that help you, share them…who knows…maybe together we might make this walk of life a little bit more enjoyable for everyone.
Simply Naty 